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Adunni Morenike Oyelaran
Portrait of Adunni Morenike Oyelaran

In memory of

Adunni Morenike Oyelaran

1946 - 2024 · Ibadan

She taught us to look up.

The family

The people around Adunni.

Adunni

  • Gbenga Oyelaran

    Husband

    1941 to 2019

  • Folake Oyelaran-Adebiyi

    Daughter

    1972

  • Kunle Adebiyi

    Son-in-law

    1969

  • Tunde Oyelaran

    Son

    1975

  • Ifeoma Oyelaran

    Daughter-in-law

    1977

  • Bisi Oyelaran

    Daughter

    1979

  • Samuel Adekola Aina

    Father

    1914 to 1988

  • Comfort Abeni Aina

    Mother

    1921 to 2003

  • Pa Joseph Aina

    Grandparent

    1888 to 1961

  • Mama Rebecca Aina

    Grandparent

    1895 to 1979

  • Modupe Aina-Fashina

    Sister

    1949

  • Deji Adebiyi

    Grandson

    1999

  • Amara Oyelaran

    Granddaughter

    2008

  • Yemisi Adebiyi

    Granddaughter

    2003

Their story

Adunni Morenike Oyelaran was born in Abeokuta in March 1946, the second of five children, and died in Ibadan in October 2024. In between she taught for thirty-nine years, ran a school for seventeen of them, raised three children, and kept a garden that half the street had a key to.

Her father was a court clerk and her mother sold cloth; the house was full of paper and full of people, and she grew up assuming that both were normal. She read anything with a spine. When the mission school offered a scholarship to the teacher training college at Ilesa she took it without asking anyone, and told her parents afterwards. They forgave her by Christmas.

She began teaching in 1967, at a girls’ grammar school on the Oke-Ado side of Ibadan, and never worked anywhere else. She taught English and, when nobody else would, geography. Her classes were quiet because she was quiet; she had discovered early that a low voice makes a room lean in. Former pupils, decades later, still lower theirs when they talk about her.

She married Gbenga Oyelaran in December 1970. He was an engineer with the water corporation, a tall, patient man who built the shelves the books lived on and then more shelves. They had Folake in 1972, Tunde in 1975 and Bisi in 1979, and the house on Adekunle Street became the kind of house other children were sent to when their own parents were travelling.

“A child who is looked at properly will grow towards the looking. That is the whole of teaching. The rest is timetables.”

She was made headmistress in 1989 and held the post until she retired in 2006. She was not a reformer in any loud sense. She fixed the roof, paid the teachers on time, kept the library open through the holidays, and made a rule that no girl would be sent home for fees without the headmistress being told first. The school’s results went up and she declined to take credit, which people found more persuasive than credit.

Retirement gave her the garden. She grew things that could be eaten and things that could be given away, and on Tuesday afternoons the back veranda filled with whoever came: former pupils with their own children, neighbours, a nephew with a problem. The Tuesday table had no agenda. People left it lighter than they arrived, and most could not have said exactly why.

She was reading, as usual, in the week she died. She had marked a page. Her family have kept the book open at it.

Around the table

What people say about Adunni.

  1. Ronke Adesina, Former pupil, class of 1983

    The low voice

    1981

    She never once raised her voice at us, and it was the most frightening thing in the school. When Mrs Oyelaran went quiet the whole room went quiet with her, and you found yourself sitting up straighter without being told to. I have tried it on my own children. It does not work for me. I think you have to mean it.

    Years later I asked her about it and she laughed and said she had simply been too shy to shout. I did not believe her then and I do not believe her now.

  2. Tunde Oyelaran, Son

    What the shelves were for

    What the shelves were for

    Dad built shelves. Mum filled them. That was the arrangement, and it lasted fifty years. The house on Adekunle Street had books in the kitchen, books on the stairs, books in the bathroom, which Dad objected to on engineering grounds and lost.

    She did not read to us so much as near us. We would be doing something else and she would be in the corner with a book, and one by one we would drift over. I do not remember learning to read. I remember wanting to know what she was smiling at.

  3. Mrs Comfort Ajayi, Colleague, 1978 to 2006

    The fees

    I was the bursar. I was the one who had to go and tell her. Every term there would be a list of girls whose fees had not come, and every term I would take it to her office, and every term she would read the list slowly and then ask me about each name. Not the amounts. The names.

    Some of those fees were paid from her own salary. I know because I was the bursar. She would have been furious if I had told anyone while she was alive, so I am telling you now.

  4. Folake Oyelaran-Adebiyi, Daughter

    Tuesdays

    2015

    Nobody was invited. That was the rule. You just came. From about three o’clock on a Tuesday the veranda would start to fill: a woman she had taught in 1970 with her granddaughter, the neighbour’s boy who had failed an exam, the pastor’s wife, somebody’s driver who had been sent to deliver something and was told to sit down and eat first.

    She sat at the end of the table and mostly listened. I asked her once what the Tuesday table was for. She said, “For people to find out that they are not the only one.”

  5. Bisi Oyelaran, Daughter

    The last page

    2024

    We have left the book open where she left it. Nobody has read ahead. It sits on the small table by her chair, with the glasses folded across the page, and when the grandchildren come they go and look at it the way you look at a photograph.

Messages

9 left for the family.

Ronke AdesinaFormer pupil

You looked at me properly when nobody else did. I grew towards it. Thank you, Ma.

Comfort AjayiColleague

Twenty-eight years in the office next to yours and I never heard you complain once. Rest, my friend. The roof is still fixed.

The Okonkwo familyNeighbours

Our children grew up on your veranda. We do not know what Tuesdays are for now.

Deji AdebiyiGrandson

Grandma, I finished the book. You were right about the ending.

Class of 1994Former pupils

Forty-one of us, from six countries. Every one of us can still hear you say “Girls.” Just the one word. We sat up.

Rev. Emmanuel OduyaFamily friend

She fed my driver before she fed me, and she was right to. A life lived in the correct order.

Ifeoma OyelaranDaughter-in-law

You never once made me feel like an in-law. Only like one more person at the table.

Bolanle OjoFormer pupil, class of 2001

I teach now. I go quiet when the room is loud. It works about half the time. I think of you every time it does.

Modupe Aina-FashinaSister

You told them about the scholarship after you had accepted it. You were fifteen. I have been proud of you since that afternoon.

Their years

  1. 1946

    Born in Abeokuta

    14 March 1946

    The second of five children, in a house full of paper and people.

    Born in Abeokuta
  2. 1964

    Teacher training at Ilesa

    September 1964

    She accepted the scholarship first and told her parents afterwards.

    Teacher training at Ilesa
  3. 1967

    First day at Oke-Ado

    January 1967

    English, and then geography when nobody else would. She never taught anywhere else.

  4. 1970

    Married Gbenga

    19 December 1970

    A tall, patient engineer who built the shelves, and then more shelves.

    Married Gbenga
  5. 1976

    Adekunle Street

    1976

    The house other children were sent to when their parents were travelling.

    Adekunle Street
  6. 1989

    Made headmistress

    September 1989

    She fixed the roof, paid people on time, and kept the library open through the holidays.

    Made headmistress
  7. 1994

    The rule about fees

    1994

    No girl sent home for fees without the headmistress being told first.

  8. 2006

    Retired

    July 2006

    Thirty-nine years at one school. The garden began the same month.

    Retired
  9. 2012

    The Tuesday table

    2012

    By now a fixture: former pupils, neighbours, a nephew with a problem.

    The Tuesday table
  10. 2024

    Died at home, Ibadan

    2 October 2024

    Reading, as usual. She had marked a page.

    Died at home, Ibadan

The places

Abeokuta

Abeokuta

1946

Where she was born, and where she learned that a house can be full of paper and people at once.

The training college, Ilesa

1964

Three years that she described, for the rest of her life, as the ones that decided everything.

Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School

Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School

1967

Teacher, then headmistress, then the person former pupils came back to find.

Adekunle Street, Ibadan

Adekunle Street, Ibadan

1976

The house, the shelves, the veranda, the garden, the table.

Things they kept

Her reading glasses

Her reading glasses

2024 · Kept by Bisi

Kept in the book she was reading, at the page she marked.

The register, 1989 to 2006

The register, 1989 to 2006

Kept by Folake

The school let the family keep the last headmistress’s register. Every girl’s name is in her hand.

Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School

The garden key

The garden key

Kept by Tunde

One of perhaps a dozen cut over the years. Nobody is sure who has the others, which was the point.

Milestones

  • 1989

    Headmistress, Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School

    Seventeen years. The results went up and she declined to take credit.

  • 2006

    Thirty-nine years at one school

    She was offered other posts, twice, and turned them down without discussing it.

  • 1990

    The holiday library

    Open every school holiday from 1990 until she retired, staffed by whoever she could persuade.

  • ·

    The fees rule

    The one policy she would defend in a raised voice. It outlived her tenure.

Service of songs

When
Friday, 25 October 2024 at 10:00
Where
The school chapel, Oke-Ado
Address
Oke-Ado, Ibadan
Notes
Former pupils are asked to sit together, by year, as she would have arranged it.