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Adunni Morenike Oyelaran
Portrait of Adunni Morenike Oyelaran
Plate 1

Register of a life

Adunni Morenike Oyelaran

b. 14 March 1946 · d. 2 October 2024 · Ibadan

She taught us to look up.

01

Biography

Born14 March 1946
Died2 October 2024
Years78
Resting placeIbadan

Adunni Morenike Oyelaran was born in Abeokuta in March 1946, the second of five children, and died in Ibadan in October 2024. In between she taught for thirty-nine years, ran a school for seventeen of them, raised three children, and kept a garden that half the street had a key to.

Her father was a court clerk and her mother sold cloth; the house was full of paper and full of people, and she grew up assuming that both were normal. She read anything with a spine. When the mission school offered a scholarship to the teacher training college at Ilesa she took it without asking anyone, and told her parents afterwards. They forgave her by Christmas.

She began teaching in 1967, at a girls’ grammar school on the Oke-Ado side of Ibadan, and never worked anywhere else. She taught English and, when nobody else would, geography. Her classes were quiet because she was quiet; she had discovered early that a low voice makes a room lean in. Former pupils, decades later, still lower theirs when they talk about her.

She married Gbenga Oyelaran in December 1970. He was an engineer with the water corporation, a tall, patient man who built the shelves the books lived on and then more shelves. They had Folake in 1972, Tunde in 1975 and Bisi in 1979, and the house on Adekunle Street became the kind of house other children were sent to when their own parents were travelling.

“A child who is looked at properly will grow towards the looking. That is the whole of teaching. The rest is timetables.”

She was made headmistress in 1989 and held the post until she retired in 2006. She was not a reformer in any loud sense. She fixed the roof, paid the teachers on time, kept the library open through the holidays, and made a rule that no girl would be sent home for fees without the headmistress being told first. The school’s results went up and she declined to take credit, which people found more persuasive than credit.

Retirement gave her the garden. She grew things that could be eaten and things that could be given away, and on Tuesday afternoons the back veranda filled with whoever came: former pupils with their own children, neighbours, a nephew with a problem. The Tuesday table had no agenda. People left it lighter than they arrived, and most could not have said exactly why.

She was reading, as usual, in the week she died. She had marked a page. Her family have kept the book open at it.

02

Honours and distinctions

No.YearHonour
02.011989Headmistress, Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar SchoolSeventeen years. The results went up and she declined to take credit.
02.022006Thirty-nine years at one schoolShe was offered other posts, twice, and turned them down without discussing it.
02.031990The holiday libraryOpen every school holiday from 1990 until she retired, staffed by whoever she could persuade.
02.04The fees ruleThe one policy she would defend in a raised voice. It outlived her tenure.
03

Chronology

10 entries.

No.DateEntryPlate
The 1940s
03.0114 March 1946Born in AbeokutaThe second of five children, in a house full of paper and people.Born in Abeokuta
The 1960s
03.02September 1964Teacher training at IlesaShe accepted the scholarship first and told her parents afterwards.Teacher training at Ilesa
03.03January 1967First day at Oke-AdoEnglish, and then geography when nobody else would. She never taught anywhere else.
The 1970s
03.0419 December 1970Married GbengaA tall, patient engineer who built the shelves, and then more shelves.Married Gbenga
03.051976Adekunle StreetThe house other children were sent to when their parents were travelling.Adekunle Street
The 1980s
03.06September 1989Made headmistressShe fixed the roof, paid people on time, and kept the library open through the holidays.Made headmistress
The 1990s
03.071994The rule about feesNo girl sent home for fees without the headmistress being told first.
The 2000s
03.08July 2006RetiredThirty-nine years at one school. The garden began the same month.Retired
The 2010s
03.092012The Tuesday tableBy now a fixture: former pupils, neighbours, a nephew with a problem.The Tuesday table
The 2020s
03.102 October 2024Died at home, IbadanReading, as usual. She had marked a page.Died at home, Ibadan
04

Genealogy

The descent and family of Adunni.

Pa Joseph Aina

Grandparent

1888 – 1961

Mama Rebecca Aina

Grandparent

1895 – 1979

Samuel Adekola Aina

Father

1914 – 1988

Comfort Abeni Aina

Mother

1921 – 2003

Adunni Morenike Oyelaran

1946 - 2024

Gbenga Oyelaran

Husband

1941 – 2019

Folake Oyelaran-Adebiyi

Daughter

1972

Kunle Adebiyi

Son-in-law

1969

Tunde Oyelaran

Son

1975

Ifeoma Oyelaran

Daughter-in-law

1977

Bisi Oyelaran

Daughter

1979

Wider family

Modupe Aina-Fashina

Sister

1949

Deji Adebiyi

Grandson

1999

Amara Oyelaran

Granddaughter

2008

Yemisi Adebiyi

Granddaughter

2003

05

Places

  1. 05.01

    Abeokuta

    1946

    Where she was born, and where she learned that a house can be full of paper and people at once.

    Abeokuta
  2. 05.02

    The training college, Ilesa

    1964

    Three years that she described, for the rest of her life, as the ones that decided everything.

  3. 05.03

    Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School

    1967

    Teacher, then headmistress, then the person former pupils came back to find.

    Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School
  4. 05.04

    Adekunle Street, Ibadan

    1976

    The house, the shelves, the veranda, the garden, the table.

    Adekunle Street, Ibadan
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12 plates.

Abeokuta, about 1952.
Plate 2Abeokuta, about 1952.
The training college at Ilesa. She is third from the left.
Plate 3The training college at Ilesa. She is third from the left.
Wedding day, December 1970.
Plate 4Wedding day, December 1970.
The staff room at Oke-Ado, late 1970s.
Plate 5The staff room at Oke-Ado, late 1970s.
Photograph of Adunni Morenike Oyelaran
Plate 6
With Folake, Tunde and Bisi on the veranda.
Plate 7With Folake, Tunde and Bisi on the veranda.
Prize-giving day, 1991.
Plate 8Prize-giving day, 1991.
In the garden.
Plate 9In the garden.
Photograph of Adunni Morenike Oyelaran
Plate 10
Her seventieth.
Plate 11Her seventieth.
The Tuesday table.
Plate 12The Tuesday table.
The last photograph, September 2024.
Plate 13The last photograph, September 2024.
07

Entries

Made by those who knew Adunni.

07.01

The low voice

Entered by Ronke Adesina, Former pupil, class of 1983 · 1981

She never once raised her voice at us, and it was the most frightening thing in the school. When Mrs Oyelaran went quiet the whole room went quiet with her, and you found yourself sitting up straighter without being told to. I have tried it on my own children. It does not work for me. I think you have to mean it.

Years later I asked her about it and she laughed and said she had simply been too shy to shout. I did not believe her then and I do not believe her now.

07.02

What the shelves were for

Entered by Tunde Oyelaran, Son

What the shelves were for

Dad built shelves. Mum filled them. That was the arrangement, and it lasted fifty years. The house on Adekunle Street had books in the kitchen, books on the stairs, books in the bathroom, which Dad objected to on engineering grounds and lost.

She did not read to us so much as near us. We would be doing something else and she would be in the corner with a book, and one by one we would drift over. I do not remember learning to read. I remember wanting to know what she was smiling at.

07.03

The fees

Entered by Mrs Comfort Ajayi, Colleague, 1978 to 2006

I was the bursar. I was the one who had to go and tell her. Every term there would be a list of girls whose fees had not come, and every term I would take it to her office, and every term she would read the list slowly and then ask me about each name. Not the amounts. The names.

Some of those fees were paid from her own salary. I know because I was the bursar. She would have been furious if I had told anyone while she was alive, so I am telling you now.

07.04

Tuesdays

Entered by Folake Oyelaran-Adebiyi, Daughter · 2015

Nobody was invited. That was the rule. You just came. From about three o’clock on a Tuesday the veranda would start to fill: a woman she had taught in 1970 with her granddaughter, the neighbour’s boy who had failed an exam, the pastor’s wife, somebody’s driver who had been sent to deliver something and was told to sit down and eat first.

She sat at the end of the table and mostly listened. I asked her once what the Tuesday table was for. She said, “For people to find out that they are not the only one.”

07.05

The last page

Entered by Bisi Oyelaran, Daughter · 2024

We have left the book open where she left it. Nobody has read ahead. It sits on the small table by her chair, with the glasses folded across the page, and when the grandchildren come they go and look at it the way you look at a photograph.

08

Effects

  1. 08.01

    Her reading glasses

    2024 · Kept by Bisi

    Kept in the book she was reading, at the page she marked.

    Her reading glasses
  2. 08.02

    The register, 1989 to 2006

    Kept by Folake

    The school let the family keep the last headmistress’s register. Every girl’s name is in her hand.

    Provenance: Oke-Ado Girls’ Grammar School

    The register, 1989 to 2006
  3. 08.03

    The garden key

    Kept by Tunde

    One of perhaps a dozen cut over the years. Nobody is sure who has the others, which was the point.

    The garden key
09

Book of remembrance

9 entries.

  1. 09.014 October 2024

    You looked at me properly when nobody else did. I grew towards it. Thank you, Ma.

    Ronke AdesinaFormer pupil

  2. 09.024 October 2024

    Twenty-eight years in the office next to yours and I never heard you complain once. Rest, my friend. The roof is still fixed.

    Comfort AjayiColleague

  3. 09.035 October 2024

    Our children grew up on your veranda. We do not know what Tuesdays are for now.

    The Okonkwo familyNeighbours

  4. 09.046 October 2024

    Grandma, I finished the book. You were right about the ending.

    Deji AdebiyiGrandson

  5. 09.058 October 2024

    Forty-one of us, from six countries. Every one of us can still hear you say “Girls.” Just the one word. We sat up.

    Class of 1994Former pupils

  6. 09.069 October 2024

    She fed my driver before she fed me, and she was right to. A life lived in the correct order.

    Rev. Emmanuel OduyaFamily friend

  7. 09.0710 October 2024

    You never once made me feel like an in-law. Only like one more person at the table.

    Ifeoma OyelaranDaughter-in-law

  8. 09.0812 October 2024

    I teach now. I go quiet when the room is loud. It works about half the time. I think of you every time it does.

    Bolanle OjoFormer pupil, class of 2001

  9. 09.0914 October 2024

    You told them about the scholarship after you had accepted it. You were fifteen. I have been proud of you since that afternoon.

    Modupe Aina-FashinaSister

10

Service of songs

WhenFriday, 25 October 2024 at 10:00
WhereThe school chapel, Oke-Ado
AddressOke-Ado, Ibadan
NotesFormer pupils are asked to sit together, by year, as she would have arranged it.